In Switzerland, in order to prevent their children from becoming incompetent, parents have made great efforts to cultivate their children's self-reliance since childhood. People who rely on their parents to live a parasitic life are considered the most worthless or shameful.
In the United States, the starting point of family education is to cultivate children with pioneering spirit and become independent people. Parents let their children know the value of labor from an early age and let them repair and assemble motorcycles themselves. Even rich children should earn their own living. American middle school students have a slogan: "You have to spend money to earn it yourself!" Farmers' children have to share housework such as mowing grass, painting houses, carpentry repairs, shoveling snow and sweeping leaves.
In Germany, children can do things by themselves from an early age, and their parents never do everything for them.
In Japanese families, children are taught an idea when they are very young: "Don't disturb others". And pay attention to cultivating children's self-care ability, survival skills and self-improvement spirit in daily life.
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Associated with the side, some parents have to make people feel a little worried about their children's education.
First, parents care too much. China's parents love their children so much that they are willing to give everything for their children. Parents always worry about their children from kindergarten, primary school, middle school and university to finding a job, getting married and having children. "I broke my heart for my children", but many children don't understand this. The people they like and admire can be singers, movie stars or political and business tycoons, but their parents are few. It can really be said: "Good intentions are not rewarded."
Second, parents care too little. In some rural families, both husband and wife go out to work, leaving young children with elderly and frail grandparents or relatives. Pay little attention to children's study and life and let them grow freely. Form a lot of bad habits.
Third, treat children with money. Some parents "give everything" and never ask their children "what's the use"? I personally heard a mother's complaint: "I give my son ten yuan for breakfast every day, but he still doesn't have enough to eat." I can't prove what he ate, but ten dollars can eat breakfast for at least five days. Another father said that his daughter's phone bill for one month actually cost nearly 200 yuan. Isn't such a child worrying?
Fourth, parents should not lead by example. Some parents here earnestly say to their children, "study hard, or you will be worthless"! There are also smoking, drinking, playing mahjong, gambling, and even asking children to change hands.
Fifth, pay attention to intellectual education and light sports. I read a report that makes people worried: "Although China has solved the problem of food and clothing for 22% of the world's population, the physical quality of children related to the future and destiny of the motherland is not optimistic." In the process of growing up, China's only child is often spoiled. In particular, some old people are so spoiled that they don't call it running or making trouble. They added rice and clothes for a while. Therefore, the children's speed quality, endurance quality, flexibility quality, explosive quality and strength quality all have an overall downward trend. It leads to the increase of obese children, the decline of vital capacity and the high myopia rate (schools and society also have unshirkable responsibilities) ...